Ernie Thayer

Here are a few challenging statements about love relationships: • When we’re in love, we are experiencing our own beauty. • Relationships don’t work well if you expect much from them. • If you use a relationship to feel better, you’ll both wind up feeling worse.

I was chatting with a friend about how it is that sometimes we are quite aware of things, watchful and scanning, yet not really awake to what is really going on inside us. Often people who’ve suffered trauma, especially as children, are extremely watchful of their environment to keep them safe. This allowed us to […]

How enterprising is my ‘self’! Even without my consent, It seems endlessly to build all manner of edifice, structures, stories, (whole novels even!) then invites me in to play (of course) the vital role.

“When the heart is breaking, the self bleeds self-pity, but Presence bleeds love.” Several people have mentioned to me lately (including some in shaky economic situations) how greatly relaxing it is to witness the machinations of oneself with only compassion and warm attention. I guess this is hard to express, but well worth the attempt.

I think I was set up…. Yesterday was a lovely day with visiting family, showing off some of our gorgeous coastline. A clear wintry blue sky, cool but comfy, endlessly inviting walks and viewpoints, sea lion roars, crashing surf, surging swell hiding then revealing the contours of the sea. Afterwards, the puppies (and several of […]