January 29th, 2007 by Ernie
Here are a few challenging statements about love relationships:
• When we’re in love, we are experiencing our own beauty.
• Relationships don’t work well if you expect much from them.
• If you use a relationship to feel better, you’ll both wind up feeling worse. Continue Reading »
January 28th, 2007 by Ernie
I was chatting with a friend about how it is that sometimes we are quite aware of things, watchful and scanning, yet not really awake to what is really going on inside us. Often people who’ve suffered trauma, especially as children, are extremely watchful of their environment to keep them safe. This allowed us to take note of something significant: when attention is squeezed down into someone’s psychological concerns, it becomes vigilance. Continue Reading »
January 26th, 2007 by Ernie
How enterprising is my ‘self’! Even without my consent, It seems endlessly to build all manner of edifice, structures, stories, (whole novels even!) then invites me in to play (of course) the vital role. Continue Reading »
January 19th, 2007 by Ernie
“When the heart is breaking, the self bleeds self-pity, but Presence bleeds love.”
Several people have mentioned to me lately (including some in shaky economic situations) how greatly relaxing it is to witness the machinations of oneself with only compassion and warm attention. I guess this is hard to express, but well worth the attempt. Continue Reading »
January 15th, 2007 by Ernie
I think I was set up….
Yesterday was a lovely day with visiting family, showing off some of our gorgeous coastline. A clear wintry blue sky, cool but comfy, endlessly inviting walks and viewpoints, sea lion roars, crashing surf, surging swell hiding then revealing the contours of the sea. Afterwards, the puppies (and several of the humans!) lay listless most of the evening, having spent themselves at the beaches. I felt a cozy warmth from the day’s activity, tired but happy.
I remember clearly how that morning I’d pulled a warm fleece blanket around me while reading, and suddenly felt deeply the warmth of life, and a smile spread across my face. A familiar act performed for thousands of years by millions of people. Yet this was one of those ‘little’ moments where I felt the enormous depth of life. Continue Reading »